Speed dating

I attended a speed dating event last week. The premise of the event is that an equal number of men and women attend, all pre-screened by age bracket. Each man has three minutes to talk to each woman. At the end of three minutes a bell rings and the man and woman each rate each other on the basis of would they like to see each other again. They rate each other on a scorecard that they turn in to the event organizers at the end of the evening. Where a man and a woman both ranked each other as Yes then the organizers send them each others contact information.

I was apprehensive about going to the event and was not in a great space about it. I even considered not going, but I had already committed to it last month so it wouldn't do to not go. Ninety percent of success is just showing up, right? The eleventh tenet of the leadership covenant - As a leader I never take myself out of the game. If you want to be a champion, fight one more round.

So I went. Three minutes go by very quickly. The premise is that most people know in less than three minutes if there is chemistry. That may be so, but I think that three minutes is not enough to get to know someone.

I did come away from the event feeling good and I enjoyed myself. Time went by so fast that I didn't have time to not enjoy myself.

A couple of days later I got the results back from the organizers and I had no matches. That left me feeling discouraged and wondering if dating is really all about superficialities. Will I do this venue again? I don't know; right now it's a toss up between not wanting to set myself up for disappointment or deciding that it's just a numbers game and keep playing it that way.